I know from bitter experience that when you get stressed and stretched the last person you think about is yourself – because you simply don’t have time, you do anything for anybody else but rarely will you do anything for yourself!
Now you may think I’m talking about ME time, which apparently our parents didn’t have, that selfish indulgent time that ends when you take on responsibilities, it’s part of the deal that you no longer have time for yourself. So it’s not just that you don’t have time, even if you did have time it wouldn’t be a priority, because it’s just not what we do.
But just think about it for a moment…
Think about your car – it needs a clean every now and again, a service, an MOT, oil change, fuel, new brake pads, tyres etc – we do this without batting an eye lid, we wouldn’t dream of driving to the South of France in a car that had been neglected for 10 years and had done 80,000 miles would we? What would happen if we did? The chances are it would break down, leaving us stranded.
But day after day, we expect high output of ourselves with minimal input, maintenance or care. What’s likely to happen if we continue? What would happen if we broke down? How would we meet our responsibilities then?
When we look at it like this, is investing in our physical and emotional self really selfish? Indulgent? Unnecessary?
Do you really think about what you eat, drink, your sleep pattern? What about the outside – good haircut? Clothes? How do you recharge your batteries? When was the last time you went for a massage or another type of relaxing therapy? Go for a run or fitness class? I’m not saying you have to do all of the above, or spend huge amounts of money that you don’t have. But it is important to question what you consider to be an investment – i.e. what makes you feel good, what recharges you?
It’s important also to question, if you don’t do these things, why not? If it is that you simply can’t justify spending that on yourself – think about it – what would you spend this money on? If the dog needed that money would you spend it? Probably yes, without hesitation! Then why aren’t you spending it on yourself. Typically the member of the family (and I use that term broadly) that neglects themselves the most generally is the one that holds it all together – if that is you, what would happen if you broke down like the neglected car? What would you pay to put yourself right or to have avoided it in the first place?
It may be that you don’t feel that you have the time, if that is the case, then you need to become a priority, like all the other people who you find time for, you are not being selfish, it is perfectly acceptable to recharge your batteries and give yourself some time back. If you find it hard, book it in your diary like you would an appointment, except this appointment is for you and it can’t be cancelled!
So for this week, just try it, book some time in for you and recharge, just see how it feels, it probably isn’t as hard as you believe, and it will more than likely make you feel a whole lot better!
Andrea Morrison is a Transformational Life Coach, Clinical Hypnotherapist & Speaker (andreamorrison.co.uk) and is author of The Feel Good Factor in 30 days, her facebook page is www.facebook.com/andreamorrisoncoaching Discover the Real You, together, today